About this blog

This blog will feature conversations about the 'transgender' debate - hopefully from a balanced and responsible perspective. We will be in search of a reasonable way forward that is appropriate but not appropriative.

These conversations will be between the three authors off list but will be edited down into regular posts on here. Each will cover a different subject that is relevant or perhaps in the news at that moment. From time to time we may bring special guests into the conversation to add personal perspective on a topic.

There will be the ability for you to comment on our discussions and we will have a section that reacts to your replies so that you can feel part of the conversation if you choose to do so.

We should add that the three authors are all fully transitioned transsexuals. That word is one we protect and has a specific medical definition as opposed to transgender which is a much wider concept used quite loosely today. Indeed it is part of an 'umbrella' adopted so as to be much more inclusive and indicates broadly a desire to express gender identity perhaps through clothing and behaviour either full time or part time. All three authors of this blog recently signed a symbolic declaration of independence from that umbrella and its dominance by transgender ideology. It was a gesture, of course, and was ridiculed by transgender activists. Hopefully, if you read our thoughts over coming months you may start to see why we took that step despite knowing it would lead to such a reaction.

The wide ranging concept of transgender is often a choice and how far you commit to it varies widely. The great majority of transgender people do not medically and surgically transition and retain their physiology intact.

Transsexuals have what some call 'sex dysphoria' - as opposed to gender dysphoria. For us it is more about survival than choice and not focused on dressing and identifying with stereotype gender behaviour. We are adapting our bodies as far as current medicine allows so that we can live as normally as possible within the opposite sex. However, we do so whilst still recognising that sex cannot literally change. This said, acceptance of you as an individual by society and within legal definition can occur and we strive to earn that respectful accommodation with you all without seeking to demand you change your own beliefs. The three authors of this blog do have legal recognition in the sex we inhabit - though laws vary as to how and when exceptions can be applied. Which we understand and accept.


Two of us are from the United Kingdom. The other from the USA. We were all aware we were transsexual from childhood and have been through many necessary lengthy medical and psychiatric programmes to be assessed before we medically altered our bodies as young adults. None of our actions were taken lightly or rapidly as is often happening today.

We transitioned and had Reassignment Surgery at the conclusion of our years of assessment, between the 1970s and the 1990s.  So we have lived and worked for the majority of our lives as women rather than as men. Usually without making a fuss about doing so. All of us have had partners, husbands, relationships, and lived with men depending on different laws at different times in the UK and US. Hopefully we can get to know one another over the coming weeks and months. Ask us questions. We will not be afraid to answer nor will we call you rude names like you might fear from trans activists. We understand that transsexual is a strange word for you to comprehend. After a lifetime living with this we get that only too well. Whilst we cannot pretend to have all the answers to your questions, we are happy to try. Together perhaps we can chart a path out of the madness and remove the anger that seems to dominate the discussion today. We hate that as much as you do and have created this blog to look for a new approach. Come with us on this journey and perhaps we can take the first steps back towards sanity.